Friday, April 25, 2014

Getting old: On a positive note …

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Recently, I’ve had a bunch of those “I wish I weren’t getting old” moments. Small things, mostly. Wondering whether the next car I buy will be my last. Noticing, again, limitations on my activities. Actually completing one of those online questionnaires that tell you your personal expected age span. Finding myself saying (out loud or silently) the things I thought only cranky old ladies said … which pretty much puts me in the class of cranky old ladies. None of this is dramatic stuff, but collectively, moments like these can get me in a bad spot about aging, a place I really prefer not to be. And usually, I’m not. Usually, I’m quite content with my status as an old woman. I realize that I’ve had and continue to have a good, full, varied life—with its wrinkles, to be sure (no pun intended), but very good on balance. But sometimes that part slips my mind.


So I was really pleased when I came across two articles that reminded me of some of the "gifts" of aging—specifically, of aging brains (like mine). I suspect I’m not the only person who sometimes grumbles to myself about the rapidly passing years, so I thought I’d pass these along as an antidote. After all, it’s spring(ish)! The birds are singing and making babies in the tree outside my study (well, they were right before I took the picture below …. trust me), and the trees are all abloom along my walks. It’s a good time for some inspiring reading!

 








The first piece, called “
The Science of Older and Wiser,” presented an interesting perspective on wisdom—something we often attribute to old people but that’s rarely well defined. In this case, researchers have shown that although thinking as it’s usually measured may be slower among older folks, it’s also more complex and more nuanced. In other words, old people may reach conclusions more slowly, but the conclusions we reach are richer, more likely to take into account the complexity of situations, the implications of possible answers, and even—I especially love this part—the human (humane) costs and benefits of our answers. Some even call this last part “compassion.” Now that’s a depiction of an aging mind that I find totally lovely—old people give more careful, complex, and humane thought to their conclusions. What a welcome change from the depiction of aging as a period of inevitable cognitive decline!




The second article, “The Older Mind May Just Be a Fuller Mind,” was equally uplifting. Now, I am aware, as many of my friends are, of having more trouble finding information that I thought was well learned and neatly stored in my brain. Sometimes it’s words or names, sometimes it’s locations or travel routes. Often it’s whole ideas (“Now, how did that splash-protection shield for my garden work last year?”). The standard reaction to these experiences is to label them as “senior moments”—a sort of quasi-flippant way to dismiss them and move on. But behind the chuckle is often, at least for me, an “oh, no” moment (“Is this evidence of old-age cognitive slowing?”). But this article gave me a whole new frame. It seems that recent research suggests that what looks like forgetfulness may just be a matter of data overload. Older people have far more experiences to sift through, so finding the particular word or thought can be more challenging. Of course!




This concept reminds me of old-time library card catalogs—row upon row of little wooden drawers filled with small cards, all organized alphabetically by title (one set of drawers) and by author (another set). No wonder we can’t immediately come up with the word for rubber boots!

And here’s another fascinating part of this research. It seems that most studies of cognitive functioning use value-neutral words—they do this intentionally so that the emotional associations of a word don’t bias whether it’s recalled or not. But it turns out that as people age, their associations become increasingly positive. Which is a good thing, in my book. Ask me about happy times, and I can generate more words to describe those times than I can if you ask me to recall bad times. It’s called “the age-related positivity effect”—so how can I not feel positive about it?





It’s good for me to have things like this tap me on the shoulder occasionally, because plenty of things in our culture tell us that all the really good stuff belongs to the young, and aging is just a slide into boredom and disengagement. I know better, and I’m grateful for reminders like these.


After all, with so much information to sift through and such nuanced thinking to deal with, these things can easily slip my mind.




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